PETCO in trouble

Yea don't spank in public. I sometimes have to threaten my 3 yr old. If I lay hands on her in public, she'll scream bloody murder and people will think I'm murdering her. She does this on purpose, she does it at home too, it just doesn't work. She actually starts screaming before I touch her lol. Don't know what to say as to biting things though.

Knowing that your son won't walk by your side, and lets say a pet store was closer and cheaper, and you of course know there are loose animals inside, would you still go to the pet store or would you find an alternate store to shop at. Because if what happened to this girl happened to your son, half the blame will still fall on you not the child. The other half with the dog's handler. Same to the handler, if he knew the dog's temperment, he shouldn't have been placed in that situation. If he didn't know the temperment, he shouldn't have been placed in that situation.

And then on top of all this, IF this is that dog's first problem, why rush to have the dog pts? I don't believe this was the dog's first incidence unless he did this to try to ward off a lawsuit which anybody could've told him wouldn't work. Had it been me and mine, they would've had to take me to court to put my dog to sleep if it was the first incidence. Why not review the tapes to see if the girl provoked the dog?

 

Cnote: Defend said earlier in the thread that no one offered obed. traning for kids. I replied that they do, it's called "The Bible. I then offered her Proverbs 13:24 (Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.) That's how church got brought up in this convo.

As for the dog, the articles did not say if this was the dog's first incident or not.

Defend: I think it's great you go to chuch regularly. But b/c you go to church every Sunday night doesn't mean a thing. The Devil himself is at the church house every Sun. morning, Sun. evening & probably is there for Weds. night Bible study too! (I'm not saying you're the Devil, I'm just making the point that all types can be found in the church house.)

And yes, applying the the precepts found in the Bible will teach a 3 y/o how to sit still! I've seen many young children to include toddlers who would sit quietly through an hour & a half church service. If one of them even thought about acting up, all the mother needed to do was give them a look. I've seen this out of many church raised kids, so you can't tell me the precepts in the Bible won't teach them to behave!

I understand you can't stay home & let your household starve. But that is no excuse for not making your child mind in public. Sure, it's hard to make him mind. But no one said being a mother was easy.

As for you being a young mother, what does that matter? Being a mother is hard regardless of age. In fact, I think younger mothers have it easier b/c you still have the energy & vigor of youth. That makes a big difference when you're trying to keep up w/ those little buggers!

I regret to hear your going thorugh some hardships. But we all do. It's no reason whatsoever not to properly parent your child. Put that kid on the straight & narrow then hold on to God's hand. He will bring you through & He will also honor you for properly parenting you child.

As for your question about anyone going through what you are, rest assured there are people who are & who have. You're not the first one to go through what you're going through & you won't be the last. Heck, my own mother left a physically abusive spouse when I was 7 & my brother was 3. She herself was 27 at the time. If you are a regular church-goer then you will remember Solomon's words "No, there is nothing new under the sun." Take heart. Others have been where you are & made it through & you will too.

You are correct in that your son is not the only child who will not obey you. But there are also tons of children who commit suicide. Are you going to let your son do that too? Of course not! Bad behaviour should not be permitted just b/c "other" kids are doing it. As my mother used to tell me "two wrongs don't make a right!"

I'm glad you are going to let your child remain a child. But part of being a child is being taught to mind. I'm sure you don't let your dogs run wild. Why would you let your child?? Is he not infinitely more important to you than your dog?

I'm glad you have a leash for your son. That is responsible parenting on your part. And I agree it can be hard to find a sitter to watch them when you run short errands. That is where the value of having a mindful child comes in!

Dillon can be taught to stay by your side. But it will takes a firm commitment on your part. As I said before, a attentive parent, a loving heart & a ready strap will do wonders. Don't give up. Right now Dillon is running you & he knows it. That's why your looks don't faze him. He's not impressed w/ you & that's b/c he knows he's running the show.

I also agree that parenting books can be confusing. That is why I mentioned the Bible. It was written by the One who knows us best!

 

all anyone is saying here it that it is hard to watch you kids 100% of the time,,when my kids were little they were taught to never ever touch a strange dog,,they didn't even ask if they could,,I am sure it was from years of dog shows,,they were so sick of dogs they didn't want to pet them anyway..
proverbs 13:24 says,,He that spareth his rod hateth his son:but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes,, this dosen't mean that you have to hit your kids,,,My son was wild,,he was everywhere in the stores,,this is the kid that would hang from the mannequins,,he would be up the elevator before I could get on,,when we left the store everyone knew his name. That kid never got in trouble at school,,was captain of the highschool hockey team,,now is in college where he is just doing wonderfully,,and is a very humorous kind soul.
I know everyone is trying to make a point and thats what this forum is about,,but, to pick on someones mothering skills is extremly hurtful,,and that is not what this should be about.

 

my idea of a good kid

What you guys are making it out to be.

 

CatcherT: I don't think anyone is "picking" on Defend. It's just that no one here wants to hear excuses for what we percieve to be lax parenting. You know as well as I do being a parent is hard, doubly so if you're a single parent, but that does not absolve one of their responsibility.

Defend: Cute pics! I especially liked the one of him doing the dishes! Better enjoy it while you can b/c in a few years getting them to do chores will be like pulling teeth!

 

Ok guys (and gals). The point I think everyone made is both the handler and the parent are at fault. We dont know the specifics of which one was the culprit, and we can only assume from the little info we've been given. However, this thread has gotten off track and arguing what does or doesnt make a good parent is not the purpose of the thread. I'd appreciate it if we could get this thread back on topic. Thank you.

 

agreed! in this paticular situation it was certainly a chain of errors on everyone part in that store that day.

 

Ok, I didn't see te part about the bible.

However I did read the article, that was my assumption. Why else run to have the dog put down?

 

Catcher: I agree. IMO there is no innocent party in this case but the little girl.

Cnote: He may have rushed to put the dog down to avoid a lawsuit.

 

Which I also stated! But that wouldn't stop the lawsuit just cus you put the dog down.

 

Sorry. I missed where you'd said that. I thought you meant they were putting the dog down b/c it had been aggressive before.

As for avoiding a lawsuit, you never know. Maybe he is thinking better safe than sorry? Or maybe the dog did have issues. I guess we will never know, as the owner sure isn't going to admit it if he did.