How can I bring my dog some confidence?

Hello all, I have another question again!
Background:
My dog is 7mo now, he is smart, obedience, tolerate with cats, kids and others. I'd say most of him is exactly what I want. I spend alot of time with him too. For most days of the week I don't go out without my dog for longer than 6 hours. I spend at least 90 minutes in playing, hanging with my dog (flirt pole, fetch, spring pole, walking, training classes, running everything)

I also socialize him with other dogs and bring him to the dog parks, I know it is not recommended by most people. I mainly take him to 3 different dog parks throughout the month, one is our community's (most dogs in the community are petbulls, all kinds of), the other two are farther from my place but bigger, with all kinds of dogs. I take him to the dog park because sometimes I am too tired to do the "every mile you walk I walk" program and I really wish I can let him play with other dogs and spend some energy, since I introduced him to neighbours senior dogs when he was very young, he was doing ok in the dog park, he would play with other puppys and adults.

Here is my concern started recently:
He is a completely coward in the dog park. He already knows how to pee like a male dog but he is completely coward, 100%. Everytime I take him to the dog park, my goal is he can play with other dogs, chase, rough play etc etc. The fact is everytime I take him to the dog park, at least two dogs will hump him (by the head or hind) and he just fucking stand there and let them hump him, he doesn't even bark.

Everytime I want him to play, he look at me waiting for me to throw something or tug something. But if I still need to do all the work, what is the point of taking him to the dog park?

If other dogs bully at him, he just does nothing. When he get knocked down, other dogs get a hold of him (and he was shaken by a female 10mo husky and he did nothing at all), he just laying there doing nothing. If I was playing fetch with him and his ball was taken by others, he looks at me like it was my problem.

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If the first time I take him to the dog park he shows no interest I will just stop taking him to the dog park and find an alter. But it just happens recently. He suddenly lose all his pride against other dogs. I by no mean want to make him aggressive, but I wish he can stand on his own instead of hiding beneath the bench or chew the roots when others dogs are playing.

When we are outside of the dog park he pulls like crazy like hes gonna tear all the dogs up or shit when he gets in he just coward down and make me feel really bad.
I don't want to take my dog to the park and he is inflatable doll, getting bullied by ALL kinds of dogs include toy breeds. I need to pull off the dogs thats humping him because he is doing nothing.

he shake the hell out of me when I am tugging with him, he would chase the bait on flirt pole really crazy, he is also an excited biter, he would direct on me if I am holding a rubber toy and tug with him.

But he is just a fucking coward at this moment. He only mess with my neighbour's fucking 9 year old dog or my friend's (a really good cool old gentleman guy) 10mo pit mix bitch.

I mean, if he messes with all living animals like crazy or he just cold as hell with most dogs, thats cool either way, but he is not one or another, he is a mixed packages. When I take him to visit my friend, he messes the fucking 9 year old senior and can't listen shit (actually I like that attitude if he keeps that attitude to all dogs) and be a pasty when he meets someone that really enjoys playing rough and wants to play with him.


TL;DR: From all I have mentioned above, I feel like my dog is similar to a loser man in the family - bully against who child and wife that likes him, love him(excite biter, messes with friend's young bitches and seinors) and be a completely coward against strangers and others(mentioned in the story)

Do you guys think I should wait for a few months more to see what will happen or do you guys have any idea if I can bring him some confidence?
It has been a month or so now, I told myself to wait till he gets a year old, if he still is like that I am going to ask the breeder for a exchange or a rehome, what do you guys think?

 

Be careful what u wish for.

New park means new dogs
New dogs new pack
New pack means gotta test the water (go slow)

He is 7 months old he is still a pup. He isn't comfortable in these places and is figuring it out. As he gets older that will change but as I said be carefull what u wish for. The next thing u know u could be in the middle of all out war. I would personally whatch him close and give him some time.

As u stated most don't think dog parks are good ideas and I am in this group. Regardless of how well he may do it only takes 1 wrong move from another dog to put u in the middle of a shit storm.


Shotgun
Arkansas

 

Thank you shotgun! You always give me some reliable tips!!!!
About the dog park, my plan is because this is the only alter when i am too tired to give him enough exercise(I myself work out and have some physical work), I am still saving for the mill (I also think it is too young to do this), plus I want to socialize him as much as possible, so I take him to the park or play with him next to the park, so he had been to those dog parks for more than 10 times each ( and I always pick playmates, ask their owner and let them play) before. and he wasn't like that when he was, if he was like that at the start i am ok with that, but he wasnt.....

 

And if one day his mind changed and he is not ok with other dogs anymore, ill just put him on the mill by then, no big deal

 

I dont know why I can't edit...but I didn't mean that I want a dog park bully, my point is that I want a confidence dog that is confidence to all, not just confidence to his own family! If he is not going to fit the dog park anymore, I will stop taking him to the dog park, simply as that :p

 

These dogs do not need doggie friends. They need human friends. He wants to play with you. There's no reason to try to socialize him with other dogs. All you're doing is allowing him to be bullied. He is looking to you as his pack leader to do something about the other dogs. He's only a puppy now but at some point he may not look for your help and take care of the problem by himself. Then you may find yourself in some trouble when he hurts another dog. The Pit Bull always gets the blame. Do yourself and your pup a favor and stay away from the dog parks.

 

Hello! Thanks for the tips
Here is another scene happened before, one day on my way back home with my dog, an loose leashed chihuahua ran to my dog and me and barked rapidly on my dog's face, I was abit scared (due to the sudden) but I was ok with that dog, but my dog turned his head away and let the chihuahua barked at him face to face. I was happy that he is well mannered against the rudeness while I wish him could make that loose leash chihuahua back off. same I wish he can know that if he doesnt like something he can show it by bark or by whatever, in stead of just tolerate and stand there, dog park is an bad example I realize, but that real life scene was not what I expect from him, I wish he is confidence enough to do more!
Sorry for my badenglish!

 

U have a pup there. Let ur pup grow & mature but becareful with what u wish for. Allowing the young dog off the leash time @ a dog park is an accident waiting to happen. I understand u say that once it shows that it wants to fight back u will stop the visits to the parks, but all it takes is one incident , and it could be the one that comes unexpectedly, that results in an apbt making headlines again. And just whose fault will it be? The careless owner or the much maligned breed?

 

Thanks Masham, Ithink bring up the dog park as example was really not smart for me, I appreicate you guys' concern, but my point as you can see on #7, even when we are not in the dog park, any where outside of home, I want him to be able to tell other dogs that he doesnt like it, and I dont know if thats too much to ask. So if there is any ways that I can encourage him and tell him it is ok to say NO to other dogs, whatever, I really appreciate for the tips. Please!!! LOL, Please get my points!!!

 

Just give the pup time. And continue to be firm with him. Dont let ur feelings of disappointment spill over in how u treat him. He will come round in his time.

 

Yea, besides being way too tolerate to everything, he is what I want, I love him from outside to inside, and I need to develop an alter option for his excess energy before I have enough for a mill

 

save your money ..don't buy a mill.
use that money for gasoline ..just drive/bike a bit where he and you can walk .....

 

To op. It sounds like you are expecting a 7m old puppy to act like a 3 or 5 year old dominant dog. And just like all the others have said... Watch out for what you are wishing for. If you get your wish it may be more than you bargained for. You may not even be able to walk your dog in public anymore. Off leash dogs that come up to you may become severely injured and maimed dogs even if their intent was to be friendly. Do you know how to break off a pitbull from tearing apart someone's off leash foofoo?

Once a pitbull becomes DA its almost impossible to turn it off. And the worst part of the whole experience is...... More people will see the bull dog breed as a menace to society. And the ironic part of this whole fiasco is that it is not the dogs fault.....it is the ignorant owners fault.

Best of luck in your dogs life. Please spend another 1000 hours or so reading about the breed and other peoples experiences with it.

Pitbulls are not the right pet for everyone.
Most of the time a lab is.

 

Good advice

 

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Just too young to put any burden on..enjoy now and let him mature.Dog parks BAD...one incident and maybe it makes the local news? bad idea. just let him grow up..

 

Yes sir sound as if one day your pup will see u will not the leader he need. Then when he hurts someone animal u will be that guy to say " he never done anything like that before" on the evening news. Please don't wait for a accident to happen

 

If you know the true nature of these dogs why would you put him in a situation where he could one day kill or seriously hurt another dog. Sounds a bit like you're wishing he'd turn on in one of those situations in the dog park. Trust me if you keep taking him there one day you're going to find yourself and your dog in trouble. Don't take offense I'm just being honest

 

......sounds like ya went out to buy a devil dog....and cause it's acting like a young dog and not what ya read in the media bull-shit....ur disapointed.....give it to some-one that has time to put into it b-fore it end's in disaster and as said above when it happens ur dog gets pts,u won't giv a shit an prob;never get another dog again.....an every other bull-d owner ends up with more negative media....

 

Keep your dogs away from other dogs period!! If that dog turns on, it may kill someone's pet...